If you’re wondering whether or not your ex will talk to you again, you may need to look at the breakup in a different light. What I mean here is this: You need to see the breakup from your ex’s point of view. Until you do, you’ll never really know if your ex will ever talk to you again or not. But, if you want to put yourself in your ex’s shoes and understand things from his perspective, use these 5 things to determine whether or not your ex will talk to you again:
The cause of the break – Look at the cause; If you’re not sure what the cause is, look at what you and your ex argued about. The cause is usually the things that created distance, arguments, misunderstandings, etc… between the two of you. If those things were more constant than anything else, then your ex won’t be too open to talking to you again.
Your reaction to the breakup – Most people don’t take a break up very well. They react badly, get angry, criticize, judge, sticky and desperate. This only further solidifies your ex’s decision to leave, because you’re backing up his doubts about you by doing the very things he doesn’t like. If his reaction was bad and resulted in his ex cutting off ALL contact; then it will likely be a LONG time before they allow you to contact them again.
your ability to change – Many people will leave a situation when they feel they cannot change a person, or that a person will not change. Your ex may not have given up all hope; rather they expect you to change in his absence. If they came back, they would be expecting some change; and the change or lack of change will THEN determine whether they leave forever or stay.
your ability to wait – Some people will instantly get a new partner, because they can’t bear to be alone. That is the BIGGEST mistake anyone can make, because if your ex comes back, they will feel like you cheated on them. This distance and space could be a test that your ex is giving you, to see if you wait and things work out; or if you just give up and find someone new because you feel lonely.
The reason to speak again – Your ex needs a very good reason to talk to you again. Time can make your ex miss you, if the period he’s away isn’t interrupted by your pleas for him to come back; and that reason alone can bring them back sooner than you think. Likewise, if they think they’ve had enough space or time to think things through, they can come back. All they need is a GOOD reason to talk to you again, which mostly comes from your patience, willingness to change, and ability to move forward.