Do you know that most affairs end when the married couple returns to their spouse? That’s how it is. Although some married men and women spend months and even many years cheating on their spouses with another partner, it is quite rare for the married couple to leave their marriage. The risk of having an affair and being discovered by your spouse today is great. With all the technology, spy cameras, GPS systems, car tracking systems, toll scanners, and cell phone records, it’s becoming more and more risky and literally a stupid choice. Why waste passion on a lover you’ll eventually leave? Why risk the pain and embarrassment that would come to you and your family?
Instead, why not start remembering why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place?
Most people have a hard time breaking free from the marital traps of a stagnant sex life. Why? Because for one reason or another they have gotten into the business of being parents, taking care of their elderly parents, working, taking care of the housework and continuing with the responsibilities, stress and worries that often accompany the good American life. . How can you change that? Here are some great ways to put the fire back in your relationship. To start, HAVE AN ADVENTURE WITH YOUR SPOUSE!
Get creative to start. What would you need to have an affair with someone outside of your marriage? It would take imagination, sensitivity, being open to new ways of thinking, sharing, caring and daring. I would certainly take a closer look at his personal image, the way he dresses, combs his hair, and personal hygiene. You would become a better listener and want to expand your comfort zone. You may take a few dance lessons, decide to take up a new hobby, make travel plans, and explore a new cuisine.
When the pizzazz seems to have left your marriage, it’s time to consider rekindling that flame. Don’t let your children be an excuse. And in fact, don’t let your parents, who now live with you, be a hindrance either. You can have a sexy relationship and satisfying sex life with your spouse if you really try.
ROMANCE means many different things to many different people. What does it mean to you? What does it mean for your spouse? What makes you sexy? (the way you talk, the way you smell, what you read, how you dress, your body parts, where you eat dinner…) What makes your spouse sexy? Think of the following ideas and start working on the list for a couple of months:
* Call your spouse and say something sexy, or in some cases, if it works for you, something “dirty.”
Ask him to meet you outside the house if possible. Go somewhere far from your neighborhood where no one knows you. Drive in two separate cars if possible. Meet in the parking lot like lovers. Make out in one or the other’s car, or drive off in the parking lot. Move the passion to the restaurant. Holding hands, touching legs under the table. Nothing too crazy. Change your names and ACT like you’re not husband and wife. Look at the stars you get.
* Surprise your spouse with a short day trip to a nearby lake and have a picnic. Plan ahead. Bring wine, cheese, fruit slices, crackers, cold chicken (whatever you like on a picnic), a blanket, radio/CD player, or bring a guitar if you wish. Dance together, hug, kiss on your blanket. Keep it safe. Make sure you are in a safe place because people get mugged in remote places. Maybe get a rowboat, or take a pontoon ride, do some fishing, ride a bike. Do something different.
*Stop at a mall and pick out a fragrance your spouse would like to smell. If you can’t afford to buy it, ask for a sample. Wrap it well. Buy a piece of sexy men’s underwear or lingerie for your partner.
* Have phone sex. It could be in the same house, in different rooms, or one could be away from home. You will start to look forward to this sexy talk.
* Prepare a candlelight dinner for two.
* Drive to a new indoor mall and storefront, stop for coffee and pick out a new CD together. Play it in the car on the way home.
* Cook together. Go to the supermarket and choose sexy foods. Attractive foods can be foods that increase sexual desire, such as certain types of seafood, or they can be foods that you find attractive.
Includes a good bottle of wine.
*Having sex somewhere other than your house. As in your sofa, the floor of the living room on a blanket, be creative. (Always close the blinds and make sure no one crosses your path)
*Shower together or take a bath together.
* Try to exercise together. It’s amazing how many people meet sexy people at their gyms.
*Give each other a massage with a new erotic lotion/oil that you love.
*Watch a sexy movie together.
* Go for a walk together and hold hands. Take time to look at the trees, the night sky, and passers-by.
*Take an afternoon off from work and go to the Art Institute or a museum together. Seeing new things can stimulate your imagination.
*Go to dance
*Plan a long-awaited trip. Talk to each other once a week about where you want to go, what you’d like to do, and what it’s like to be away from home and all the day-to-day routine.
* At home, put the kids to sleep, then see how calmly you can have sex. Pretend you are teenagers and your parents might come in.
*Start making love to your spouse with words. Remember what you love about him/her. Her eyes, skin, physique, brilliance, humor, whatever turns you on. Leave a note on the bathroom mirror before you go to work. Those sticky notes work great. Put a note in her drawer, in the coffee pot, in her briefcase, in a book, wherever she reads it when you’re not around.
*Write a sexy love letter and mail it to your spouse. There is something special about receiving a handwritten love letter in the mail.
*Spend time learning something new that the two of you can share for years to come. Try something like golf, swimming, biking, hiking, bowling, play cards, learn photography, take
bird watching, learning about gardening or yoga. Whatever you choose, make it something both people enjoy.
*Invite your spouse on a date and plan it. Pick up your date and go back to pretending you barely know each other.
* Storms create a lot of energy, images and sounds. Some people really enjoy making love during a thunderstorm. Just looking at a storm can be sexy. The power behind lightning and thunder is exhilarating for some couples.
*Send flowers or candy to your spouse at work or home with a love note attached.
*Do something you wouldn’t normally do, like go to a sporting event. sometimes be in a scream
happy crowd reminds you of the enthusiasm of youth. Once your hormone levels are stimulated by all that estrogen or testosterone around you, you’ll start to think you’re younger again. Observe how the young people act towards each other. On the other hand, if you are younger, watch how the older people are tender towards each other.
*During intimate moments, make things new by starting the event long before it actually happens. After
do things differently. Try new positions, be creative; but always make sure your partner approves of any suggestion, either verbally or with your actions.
* Try to touch certain parts of the body that stimulate your partner. Remember that touching can be erotic or irritating. Learn to read your spouse. If you don’t want to be touched after you shower, don’t. If you come up behind your spouse while he/she is combing his/her hair and gently kiss one ear and then caress a significant part of the body, watch for the response. You can vary the time you spend making love. Once in a while it is good to have sex and not make love, and other times making love taking your time and lengthening the sequence works well.
Having an affair with your spouse can be wonderful, exciting, fun, and very rewarding. Having an affair with the person you really love is something that can last a lifetime, it creates closer ties between you and your whole family. When the parents are happy, the children can feel it, they can feel it.
Having an affair with your spouse is not just about improving your sex life, it is about improving your life in every way. So go one step further and do more things together, continue to have your own interests, expect to share all aspects of marriage. Honor each other by respecting each other’s wants, likes, and dislikes, and supporting each other as you move through all phases of life and marriage.
There is certainly much more involved in creating the perfect love story. This is a start. Use your imagination, your honesty, and your love to make your marriage the relationship of your dreams. You can have a sexy and lasting love relationship with your spouse. Your spouse can be the lady or man of your dreams if you make it happen together.
True love is worth…